The day after he left, I receive a barrage of texts on my phone: We need to discuss money, he says. Practical matters. Arrange the finances.
I inquire if he intends to pay the mortgage due in a few days, and he refuses to respond.
A few days later, he needs “stuff”: Clean clothes, a razor he’d forgotten. Urgently. He’s coming to the house to pick them up.
No, I say. I’ve changed the locks.
I betrayed his trust, he says. I am not acting in good faith.
The cleaning lady comes a few days later, and I explain the situation. She is glad he is gone, she says, and tells me what she’d really thought of him – not much, he seemed to make me sad – and then goes off to vacuum.
Later, she comes back and waits to get my attention, silently, outside my office.
I want to tell you something, she says. When you were having all the shots for the baby, I found a card in his pants when I was doing the laundry. It was for an apartment manager. For an apartment. I wondered why he was looking for an apartment when you were going to the baby doctor.
I did not think it was my business to tell you, she tells me. I did not know what to say.
I understand, I say.
I will tell that to a judge, she says.
I had not asked her to, but thank her anyway.
just wanted to let you know who was reading your entire blog since you had hacking incidents before and it might seem suspicious 🙂 you’ve had quite the ride and I’m sorry you and your daughter have gone through this – hopefully things will start going better – I have to say I think my fav part of yoru whole blog ws the entry when the foreigner asked for a review and his cs was raised LOVE IT! LOL my ex doesn’t pay anything for his two daughters either and is only ordered to pay $50 a month for both because when we got divorced he was unemployed I’ve never taken him back to court because I’m just glad he leaves them alone when they are older I might but until they are old enough to refuse to see him it’s better that he’s just out of their life – I’m not a dad hater – I would love it if he was a good dad and I’d love for him to be in their life if he was but he’s not so….
J. Doe says
I am so glad you stopped by. What goes on in the courts for CS is really quite astonishing – though I get the occasional surprise. And I am with you, I hate chasing him around for money because I just prefer that he stay away from her. His actions are hurtful and what child needs that?