This is why I stay in relationships so long: I make commitments based on what other people offer or strongarm me into accepting. Then I honor those commitments long past the point that is reasonable. I agonize over taking the steps I need to take to resolve the situation – because you know, this last, other thing I haven’t tried yet – that might fix it. And while I’m busy with that, I lose any momentum I might briefly have had to actually resolve the situation in a way that might make me happy.
Is it wrong to be selfish when there is a life at stake?
Is it selfish to say, I want to be happy, and not only do you not make me happy, you contribute to my unhappiness?
Doesn’t everybody deserve love?
If we give love, and show it through our actions and efforts, is it selfish to say we deserve to be loved in return?
Just a little?