The next day, there’s an email from Mr. ex-Mormon. Subject: Thanks and dinner.
I quite enjoyed getting to know you a little yesterday. I only lament that we didn’t get to talk about your work or movies.
I know you’re busy, but I would like to buy you dinner. If you haven’t yet been to the best Italian on the entire East side, I could take you to xyz. Or if you want to be fancy wined and dined, the absolute best steak in the world is on the menu at abc.
My week is already all scheduled up except for Sunday. Would that work for you?
I feel ill. He wants to take me out for a fancy dinner that I am quite sure he can’t afford. I do not dislike him in any way. I have no wish to be unkind, or rude.
I ask my father. Tell him, he says.
Upon further reflection, I prefer not to pursue this. I enjoyed meeting you and wish you all the best.
OK, thanks for the reply. Good luck to you too!
If you’re interested in staying connected professionally, send me a linkedin connect invite.
Below this is a link to his Linked In profile.
I cannot imagine any scenario in which I might find this connection useful professionally. I do actually spend some time thinking about this.
I had thought, given how many people on match say they want to “go slow,” “take time getting to know someone,” or any of the other permutations of this language, that I might meet someone who was interesting and, if there was no attraction, would be fun to do things with as a friend.
No, I won’t. Nobody signs up for any of these online services looking for anything other than a relationship.
There are easier ways to make friends, and it’s becoming clear I must find them.